(eTN) – Ukuze sithole umsuka woSuku Lwezithandani sibuyisela emuva isikhathi sibheke eMbusweni WaseRoma lapho uFebhuwari 14 ekuqaleni kwakuyiholidi lokuhlonipha uJuno Indlovukazi Yonkulunkulu Nonkulunkulukazi baseRoma kanye Nonkulunkulukazi wabesifazane nomshado.
UMbusi uClaudius II (268 - 270), owaziwa nangokuthi uClaudius the Cruel, wayethanda ukuqala izimpi ezichitha igazi nezingathandeki ayedinga inqwaba yamadoda. Imizamo yakhe yokuqasha yaba yimpi engaphumelelanga ngoba amadoda ayefuna ukuhlala nemindeni yawo kanye nabathandekayo. Ukuze abenze “man up” wakuchitha konke ukuthembisana nemishado.
Umpristi waseRoma, u-Saint Valentine, waqhubeka ngasese ukushada imibhangqwana ephula ngokuqondile uMbusi. Lapho uClaudius ethola lokhu, uValentine waboshwa, wahudulelwa ejele futhi wagwetshwa. Bekulindeleke ukuthi ashaywe ngezinduku aze afe futhi anqunywe ikhanda ngoFebhuwari 14.
Ngesikhathi eboshiwe, u-St. Valentine wazama ukuhlala ejabule futhi intsha ayeshade nayo yamvakashela ejele, imthela ngezimbali namanothi.
Esinye sezivakashi zakhe kwakuyindodakazi kanogada wasejele owayevunyelwe ukuvakashela u-Valentine esitokisini sakhe. Ihlezi futhi ixoxa amahora amaningi, le ntokazi yakhuthaza u-St. Valentine ukuthi aqhubeke nokushada ngasese.
Ngosuku okwakuhlelelwe ukuthi anqunywe ngalo ikhanda, washiyela umngane wakhe incwadi ebonga ubungane nokwethembeka kwakhe, kwase kusayinwa, “Love from your Valentine.” Usuku kwakunguFebhuwari 14, 269 AD.
Manje njalo ngonyaka ngalolu suku, abantu bakhumbula futhi bashintshana ngemilayezo yothando ngoSuku Lwezithandani; UMbusi uClaudius ukhunjulwa njengozamile ukuma endleleni yothando.
I-Global Romance Trivia:
E-US, umshado uyibhizinisi elikhulu. Cishe imikhosi engu-6,200 yenziwa ngosuku ngenani eliphelele lezigidi ezingu-2.3 ngonyaka. Kuleli nani, imishado eyi-123,300 yenziwa eNevada ngo-2002.
Iminyaka emaphakathi yomshado wokuqala kwabesifazane yiminyaka engama-25.3 kuyilapho mina ngineminyaka engama-26.9.
Isimo esinezinga eliphezulu kakhulu lomshado e-US yi-Idaho ngamaphesenti angu-60; INew York inenani eliphansi kakhulu ngamaphesenti angama-50
NgeNkathi Ephakathi, izinsizwa nezintombi zazidweba amagama endishini ukuze zibone ukuthi zaziyoba ubani izindondo zazo. La magama babewafaka emikhonweni isonto elilodwa. Ukufaka inhliziyo yakho emkhonweni wakho manje kusho ukuthi kulula kwabanye abantu ukwazi ukuthi uzizwa kanjani.
EWales izinkezo zothando zokhuni ziyaqoshwa futhi zinikezwe njengezipho ngo-February 14. Izinkezo zihlotshiswe ngezinhliziyo, okhiye nezimbobo zokhiye okusho ukuthi “vula inhliziyo yakho.”
Kwamanye amazwe, uma owesifazane osemusha ethola isipho sokugqoka ensizwa - futhi usigcina isipho, kusho ukuthi uzoshada nayo.
Umshado, ezothando nothando kuyaqhubeka nokuduma - naphezu kwezimpi nokuwohloka komnotho. Uma into yangempela ingatholakali, abaseshi bothando baphendukela ezincwadini zothando, futhi izinganekwane zothando zenza ukuthengiswa kwezigidigidi ezingu-1.37 zamaRandi ngo-20006.
Izinganekwane zothando zidayise zonke izigaba zemakethe ngo-2006, ngaphandle kwezenkolo/ezikhuthazayo
Amaphesenti angamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye nantathu abo bonke abafundi bezothando ngabesifazane futhi oyedwa kuphela kwabesilisa abangama-50 owafunda inoveli yezothando ngo-2002.
Nakuba uthando lwenza umhlaba wonke, ucwaningo olwenziwa yi-Pew Internet and American Life Project Online Dating Survey (2005), luthole ukuthi iningi lentsha eMelika “alizichazi ngokuthi lifuna abantu abathandana nalo.”
Iningi labantu abadala baseMelika (amaphesenti angu-56 noma abantu abayizigidi ezingu-113) abekho emakethe yokuqomisana (bashadile noma baphila njengabashadile); nokho, isibalo sabantu abafuna ezothando sisesikhulu.
Abantu abadala abangamaphesenti angama-43 (izigidi ezingu-87) bathi abashadile. Kuzo zonke izingoma ezingashadile, amaphesenti angu-16 kuphela athi afuna umaqondana. Lokhu kubalelwa kumaphesenti angu-7 abantu abadala. Amaphesenti angaba ngu-55 abantu abangashadile abika ukuthi abanantshisekelo yokufuna umaqondana; lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi kwabesifazane, kulabo abaye bashonelwa noma abadivosile, nakubantu abadala abangashadile.
Ungabehlisi Abangashadile
Kusho ukuthini konke lokhu ngamathuba ebhizinisi? Izindawo okuyiwa kuzo, amahhotela, izindawo zokudlela, kanye nezindawo ezikhangayo kufanele zibone ukuthi umshado, imishado namaholidi omshado kubalulekile futhi izimakethe ezibalulekile - nokho, ukugxila kuphela kubabhangqwana futhi umndeni ususa isabelo esikhulu semakethe.
Usuku Lwezithandani lusagujwa - kodwa ngezinye izikhathi “olunye olubalulekile” akuyena umngane womshado, noma ingoduso. Kodwa, njengoba u-Saint Valentine athola-ukujabulela kakhulu "nomngane omkhulu."
